I was totally shocked when I saw him. His mouth was open, skin pale and deathly greenish, eyes like black sockets, not much hair and he instantly reminded me of a orc from Lord of the Rings Pete Jackson movie. After I had spend time with his body I moved on...... however I had to take the time to view him at the funeral home - cause I didn't want my last memory of grandad to be a orc! So I did see him again. I was amazed at the transformation. He looked old, but so much more like him when he was healthy. Very impressed with the ability to transform the body from a very scary look to a calm, peaceful and real look.
Tell you that story because a study has come out looking at loved ones seeing the body after a traumatic death. When given the option some people declined to identify / view body as they didn't want to remember the person like how they looked after the trauma. However interestingly enough those who did view the body found that:
Seeing the body brought home the reality of death; it could be shocking or distressing, but, in this sample, few who did so said they regretted it.The number of families in the study were 80, so still low numbers. The study then concluded with:
Even after a traumatic death, relatives should have the opportunity to view the body, and time to decide which family member, if any, should identify remains. Officials should prepare relatives for what they might see, and explain any legal reasons why the body cannot be touched.This has changed my view. I would have previously declined to see any loved ones body if it was irreversibly damaged via trauma. However after reading this study I would seriously consider looking at the body to help with closure. I know that this was hardly a wellness message, however it is research that can bring people life.... so have included it!
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